Special Interview

Hello dear friends! With me is a special friend from my community that has been struggling with infertility. Molly Huber has shared with us her struggle. Here’s our conversation.

How do you see God’s hand in your your plea for children?

In the past two years. God has always placed someone into my life at what I would now call my lowest points in dealing with infertility. The month I got married, not knowing yet that we would have trouble getting pregnant, one of my first close friends since moving to Dickinson had a baby boy. I loved on that baby with the hopes of being nine months away from having a sweet babe all of my own. I got to watch milestones with her, got to watch the excitement and exhaustion of being a new mom, got to see her pain as certain circumstances made reality the fact that this may be her only child. As I witnessed all this, I thought surely God would bless with me with several kids so her son could grow up and be a “big brother” to my own. A year into married life brought me to an appointment with a PA who had gone through difficulty in having her own child, and so gave me someone in the medical world to sympathize with and do everything she possibly could to figure out why I hadn’t become pregnant in the last year. In this past year, I’ve gained the friendship of a young woman who had been waiting for three years for a child of her own, only to recently learn that she can’t have children and God’s plan for her is adoption. I’ve watched her pain, her hope, her perseverance. Not any of these women or situations are me or mine, but God knew that I needed to see these women and their lives in order to better prepare my heart for the plans He has for me.

What is a word you would give to a young woman who wants children and is having difficulty?

I don’t have a single word for the young woman wanting children and having difficulty, I have an entire phrase for them. “It’s ok to be sad.” For six months in 2017, I was on medication to hopefully correct some of the hormone issues I’m dealing with. A combination of doubt, worry, hormones, waiting, and fear put me in a place of confused emotions. At work, in social situations, even with my husband, I felt like I was in this alone and had to put on a brave face for everyone. After talking with a close friend, however, she reassured me that it’s ok to be sad. I don’t have to have my feelings in control for everyone else. Once I figured that out, my emotional state improved dramatically. I didn’t feel on edge around others, knowing that I could be honest in saying that I wasn’t ok. And the important thing is, I didn’t stay sad. Yes, I have ups and downs still, but my overall sense of sadness has lessened by sharing that sadness with others.

How do you see God using you as a spiritual mother?

This time of waiting has given me an opportunity to be a better wife and friend to those in my life. I don’t always see those opportunities and capitalize on them, but God puts them in my path and I’m learning to love in those moments.

What do you feel the Lord asking as you journey?

God’s been asking me to draw closer to Him, which I’ve found can be difficult. It’s easy for me to blame God for putting me in this situation, for thinking I did something to cause my situation. It seemed like I couldn’t make it through Mass without hearing something in the readings that caused my heart to ache, though now I see that was God appealing to that very heart. There were times in our prayers at night when my husband was the only one that could vocalize our prayers for a child, as it was too hard for me to ask God for the thing I wanted most. I hate to admit I turned my heart away from God as much as I did, but there was always something to turn me back.

How have you grown through this experience?

In a conversation recently with a friend, I confessed that I was that person who would secretly (and sometimes not so secretly) wonder when my married friends would have their first child, then their second….and so on. My experience has given me a new perspective on family dynamics. Infertility is much more common than I ever realized, taking its toll on more women in my life than I ever dreamed. With perspective comes compassion. Femininity is a beautiful thing, but for many, it can bring a burden that can be scrutinized by even those closest to us. A little compassion towards the women in our lives can impact farther than we may know. Compassion shown towards me has brought about friendships with women who have suffered like me, and those women give me hope and beautiful examples of steadfast faith in those times of suffering.

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Offering

Make of me a holy offering,

One bent to your holy will.

For obedience is better than sacrifice,

And offers you a sacrifice of praise.

If I disdain your discipline,

What am I?

You bring before my eyes the fault I hold on to.

Daily you offer new wine,

It depends on my response,

A new effort to cast away the old man,

And accept the new.

Belief in your purpose drives me on,

To relate to respond to to act,

On Thy most Holy Word.

How can you reject a clean heart, O God,

Of one who turns to you in righteousness?

Who keeps his way ever before you?

It is to the disobedient that your wrath falls.

But Mercy to those who follow Thy invitation and whom trusts in Thy works.

1 Sam 15:16-03 Ps 50: 8-9, 16-17, 21, 23 Mk 2:18-22

Word of the Week

Obedience–noun and action

1 the state or quality of being obedient.

2 the act or practice of obeying; dutiful or submissive compliance:

3 a sphere of authority or jurisdiction,

4 Chiefly Ecclesiastical.

a conformity to a monastic rule or the authority of a religious superior, especially on the part of one who has vowed such conformance.

b the rule or authority that exacts such conformance.

We live in a world that is solely focused on furthering its own aim. Yet we are not our own. We belong to Christ and are purchased at a price. That means that what I do must be for others, freely giving without a cost. Does that mean my needs go by the wayside? No God richly provides for you but you have to give yourself and sometimes this hurts. In doing right away what God asks we will find fulfillment, peace, and purpose. Our life gains meaning and we sail as one staying with the flagship. Here is where trust comes in. God will reveal Himself to you. In that moment He asks you a question, “What are you looking for?” Answer this question. You will find these things in Christ and He will fill the deepest longing of your heart.

1 Samuel 3:3b-10, 19 Ps 40:2,4,7-10 1 Cor 6:13-15a, 17-20 John 1:35-42

He Reveals Himself

We must draw close to the Lord. In His company we will discover everything. But how will I know Him? Jesus himself will reveal His presence to you. We must open our eyes and look for how He gives himself to us. Most days there will be at least one rose and one thorn. The important thing is to record them. From there more can open up to us. God will and does reveal Himself. It is a matter of letting go and trusting Him to be right beside you and that in His time He will reveal His presence. It is a matter of opening our heart to say, “Speak Lord your servant heareth.”

Today’s Readings

Remain

We have been speaking about the presence and assistance of God in our life. Now comes the time of putting what we have learned to the safekeeping of Almighty God. What do I mean by that? Let what you heard from the beginning remain in you then you will remain in the Son and the Father. And this is the promise: eternal life. There comes a point where no further word is necessary. We just have to trust that we have what we need in Christ. That we will receive from Him what we need when we need it. This calls for the highest level of trust and abandonment. What is there to fear? We have His grace. As for you, the anointing that you have received from him remains in you. This word is true. It will save you and will take root in your life. This anointing will teach you. That does not make us infallible. We still need the safeguards of the Church and of the body of Christ. But it means we are not alone and that we will learn from it.

Entrust yourself to the Hands of Divine Providence and leave yourself there. Do not go back and forth but steadily grow and allow the Word of God to be implanted in you. The danger lies in when we lean on our own estimation and stubbornly persist in a habit of not trusting. God has capable hands if only we would let Him work.

1 Jn 2:22-28 Ps 98:1-4 Jn 1:19-28

Word of the Week

Home:

A place where one dwells.

Not a house that has no heart.

Mini Church called domestic,

Family headquarters,

A place to always come back to,

Love and support.

If not our experience one must find,

In heart a home to dwell.

God the Father watches out,

Mary our mother does too.

We have a holy family to follow,

Real not hidy high,

Loving yet struggling to come to life.

What would would free them from the struggles we have now?

An example for us to follow.

Holy not perfect.

Walking

It is no wonder that we have a disconnect sometimes with our emotions and what we live. The litmus test is if we are following the command of God. We say that we want unity and that we want to be close to Him, yet what are we doing to truly be in that state? We know we are in unity with Christ when we walk and are willing to walk the same walk of faith. What is this walk? To answer this question we have to meditate on the life of Christ. We cannot walk or even be intimate unless we do this. We cannot have knowledge of Him unless we stay with Him and spend time with Him.

What are some basics to know if we are on the right path? Abandonment to what God has for us. That flexibility to receive life’s blows or blessings. Are we following what is commanded of us? Grace and kindness compassion. Do we have the fruits of the Spirit with His gifts? Embracing suffering as well as joy and keeping steady progress. Am I living a life of up and down or I am at least striving for consistency? We will be be handed many things and some days will be better than others. The secret is walking with God.

Oh my Beautiful One

“Blessed are you who believed that what was spoken to you by the Lord would be fulfilled.” In these words are a promise. Faith in the Lord’s word that what He says will be done. In belief comes blessing. Yes the blessing may come in form of suffering at times but what the Lord allows is good. It is in the suffering of our own making that causes greater distress.Though the Mercy of God allows all things to be to our own good. It is when we reject completely God’s works that we run into trouble. Our own works condemn us. God will not condemn. It is He that will beckon us back to Him until the very end.It is in our owndoing and not allowing God to work that we get into trouble.

He on the other hand says, “Arise, my beloved, my dove, my beautiful one, and come! For see, the winter is past, the rains are over and gone. The flowers appear on the earth, the time of pruning the vines has come, and the song of the dove is heard in our land.”

It is a calling forth to fertility and fruitfulness. He wants to grow and mend us and bring us forth from our wounds and make us whole. It is a love song beckoning us deep into His heart. He takes joy in us and desires our company. He desires to be with us always. His is the communion and the deepest love.Why would the One who created us do anything but love us for the unique individuality that He gave us? Each of us, in some way, mirror the Person of God in some measure. And by His ordination carry out this aspect to our brothers and sisters out of this love. Ours is the body that carries out His bidding in the flesh. We are the ones that make God present all through the merit of His Son, Jesus Christ.

“O my dove in the clefts of the rock, in the secret recesses of the cliff, Let me see you, let me hear your voice, For your voice is sweet, and you are lovely.”

Today’s Readings

Surrender

“Do not be afraid Mary you have found favor with God.” Mary’s yes was with full consent of the heart to the suffering she would experience as the suffering servant’s mother. She recognizes the hand of God by His greeting that he was “God with us” Emmanuelle. God offers Himself to her and she accepts His advances. He offers himself to us, “Ask for sign,” and yet it is not of a little faith that disbelieves that he can do anything but one that believes with the whole heart that all things are possible with God.

I need to surrender myself completely to His hand without fear of the future. With a trust that whatever happens is only allowed by His hand and that he is with me. Come what may. I may only make it worse for myself if I have any sort of fear or resistance to what He plans to come. Trust. Like Mary’s yes despite knowing hardships would come. Not like Zachariah’s disbelief even with the wonder of God being revealed to him.

Today’s Readings

From the Womb

We have today the announcement of two births. It is a reminder of the greatness of the Lord in hearing the ache and longing of two women who have long been barren and desiring of children. If you are in this place my message is to you. Do not be afraid for God hears your plea and will grant your prayer according to His most Holy Will. These readings are a reminder of an important truth. From our Mother’s womb we have been consecrated to the Lord to do His work and bring deliverance to the people of God. We are given the stirring of the Holy Spirit. Any Children begotten within our womb shall be blessed and will bring about the gift of God and we must stir into flame an openness to His hand. Even if these children do not yet exist our hearts must be ready and willing to be an open channel of the grace to of God and be a loving presence of His hand. How am I a channel? How do I recognize that God indeed will hear my prayer and I will have joy and gladness? What can I do now to prepare for the coming of His will?

(Judges 13:2-7, 24-25 Psalm 71:3-6 16-17 Luke 1:5-25)